Show me a perfect mom, and you’ll show me someone who’s hiding.
Mistakes, pain, shame, guilt, vulnerability, depression, rage, a past…She’s hiding something, I promise you.
Not one of us is perfect, even if that’s what we portray.
We’ve all been there at one time or another. Feeling way less than perfect. Inadequate. Like a loser. Like a failure. Like the outcast.
You may be thinking, “I thought all (other) Christians had it together. I thought it was just me who’s broken.”
Nope, even those of us who know Jesus stumble. We make mistakes. We yell at the kids one too many times. We disappoint our husbands again. We just don’t feel up to par. Even Paul of the Bible repeated the same mistakes! (For that which I do I allow not: for what I would, that do I not; but what I hate, that do I. Romans 7:15 – This means what he wants to do, he doesn’t, but what he doesn’t want to do, he does! Sound familiar?)
Mistake-making is part of being a human, and Christianity doesn’t change our humanity. But this pull of perfectionism is so strong, even among believers. Sometimes it’s even worse among believers! With all the judgement going on, everyone wants to hide behind masks of perfection and not let anyone see the real person. We only let them see the surface us. The Facebook us. The Instagram us. The church service us. The us that is positive, cheerful, well-off and doing great!
But if we’re honest, that is not our typical daily life. Some people don’t want to see realistic “drama,” so others of us feel backed into a corner: Should we share nothing, share something pretend or exaggerated, or share the real us?
Will I be rejected when I allow myself to be open and vulnerable about my mistakes?Will I be rejected when I allow myself to be open and vulnerable about my mistakes? #imperfectmomClick To Tweet
What about when I am not loving to my kids?
When I yell at them, or sit and stew in anger about their disobedience instead of handling it in love?
How about when I’m disrespectful and hurtful to my husband?
When I yell at him, disagree with him just to be disagreeable, or fight over petty things?
What about when I inadvertently hurt a friend, by something I said, or something I didn’t say or do?
When I fail to meet someone else’s standards for me.
You can do it. Even though it’s hard. You can rip off that mask and let others in. You’ll be surprised – most will be welcoming. Those who ignore or avoid you aren’t really people you want to spend time with anyway, right? Yes, it’s humbling, to let someone in and see the imperfect me. But know what? It’s also freeing. I’m free to just be myself, be the real me, flaws and all, and know that if someone accepts me, it’s really me they’re accepting, not just the projection-of-who-I’d-like-to-be.I'm free to just be myself, flaws and all, and know that if someone accepts me,Click To Tweet
I have goals. Big goals for this site, for my family, and for myself. But as you know, I am far from perfect (you picked up on that subtlety, right?!). So sometimes, this site feels like total hypocrisy! I want you to know, that it’s NOT. It’s not hypocrisy. It’s just showing what the goal is, and it’s a reminder that no matter what we’re going through, there’s a blessing somewhere in there.
Shouldn’t we try to grow closer to Christ each day?
Of course! What we want as Christians is to always strive for Christ’s best, but not expect that ever-elusive perfection. In our lives and on this site we should point others to the only perfect One. Daily, He works in my heart to bring me closer to Him. I’ll never be totally perfect this side of Heaven. But it doesn’t matter, because I’m clothed in His perfect righteousness.it doesn't matter, because I'm clothed in His perfect righteousness.Click To Tweet
It’s not pointless to be loving, to do good, to be understanding, to apologize when you’re wrong, etc. Just focus on doing your best unto the Lord. Don’t focus on perfection, but press on. (I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus. Philippians 3:14) There’s only one Person Who’s always been perfect.
And it’s not you or me.
Our imperfections only help highlight His perfection.
Our weaknesses highlight His strength.
Our failures highlight His victory.
And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness.Click To Tweet
And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 2 Corinthians 12:9
I hope that this Series will inspire, encourage, challenge and convict you to be the real you, the one with flaws, and accept that imperfect you, because Jesus died for you! You’re not perfect, but He loves you. You’re not perfect, but we love you. You’re not perfect, but you’re worth it.
Lord, give me the wisdom to accept your new mercies every day,
the humility to allow others to see the real me,
the grace to allow imperfections in others,
and the love to point each of us to Your perfect Word.
prayers and blessings from a very imperfect mom,
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